What If Your Partner Was Uniquely Made For You?

Do you have an U.M.F.Y (Uniquely Made For You) Boo?

Hey! I wonder if you have an UMFY boo? A Uniquely Made For You partner, a person who you seem to fit into, and with whom you’re mostly compatible, [mostly]. The day I started believing this truth about my marriage, is the day things took off in a different way. 

Now I don’t know if it is a case of the chicken or the egg coming first. I don’t know if, believing that my husband was an UMFY partner, actually opened my eyes to increasingly see the ways in which we complemented each other OR if we already complemented each other and I just discovered it. Maybe the reality is somewhere in the middle 🤷🏾‍♀️. 

 And while I don’t have the answer to that question, the results of starting from the point of view that ‘we belong together’ definitely changed everyday life. I began to be purposeful, emboldened, crazy in love with him again. My mindset shifted somehow. I didn’t care what other people thought. I was like, this man chose me and I chose him because of this reason, and that reason - and this other reason over there that I must have forgotten. Hey! I have an UMFY. Let’s go further, deeper, bolder, because we belong together!

Every marriage is unique. I have stopped assessing couples from the outside, wondering, what does he see in her or, how could she marry a him? Every girl has her diamond! Every man has his Porsche. What you think you know about somebody pales in comparison with who the person really is, and what the person really needs. I know for me, after several failed relationships, I needed emotional security more than anything else in the world (I STILL DO!!). I know I have a very tender heart, in spite of being a beast in some areas, and I needed someone who would handle my heart right. 

I am certain that if you look closely enough, you can find the UMFY in your boo. Lock in with him. Study him. Lock in with your subject matter, girl! Start from the end and work backwards. The end is this - that you two were uniquely made for each other. Start to replace the old script that said you were incompatible, with the UMFY script which says that you complement, strengthen and complete each other. 

This is what Umfyness is about. In the areas where you are deficient, your husband complements you, and vice versa. However, there are areas in which you are both strong, and thus provide validation for each other. As well, my blind spots accommodate his failings, and thank God he has a blind spot for a house that is 60% clean at any given time (!!). This list is by no means complete, so take a look at your own marriage to add to the definition of the UMFY partner. An UMFY partner does not mean a perfect partner, or make for a perfect marriage. HA! But believing that you have an UMFY partner does give you a starting point of certainty, hope, and conviction to pursue more compatibility and intimacy in your marriage. 

Take a look at this video: https://youtu.be/W1hA4cKXU18 which can help you figure out why you and your boo are compatible. I hope it helps you. It sure put things in perspective for me.

When you got married, you got a life partner. What happens if you begin to see your life partner as UMFY? And you know what, UMFY does sound soo comfy too! Cuddle up with your UMFY!!

What I Learned This Week:

Don’t give up on praying for those you love; your prayers are working. Persistent prayer is like an ax that hits again and again at the same spot on the tree trunk, until the tree topples over. Keep on praying. TWEET THIS

 Quote I loved this Week:

"Your vibe will attract your tribe".